[YodasLuke]

Does anybody know where the V is in a golf grip----is it the bones--first and second metacarpals and proximal phalanx of the inmdex finger and proximal and distal phalanges of the thumb or is it a skin fold--which curves ?? or is it the space between the distal phalanx of the thumb and the proximal phalanx of the index finger which changes by slightly moving either finger ?? pointing the V's somewhere is tough without knowing where they are

You could make it very simple by having your hands vertical (which you can see), and getting your #3 pressure point on the aft side of the shaft. I would suggest, if the left hand is vertical, separating the left thumb from the hand to create a space instead of a "V". Move it toward the aft side of the shaft so the left thumb fits snugly in the cup of the right hand. This is assuming that you'd be starting with the recommended 10-2-B grip.
The pressure points are your guide, not the "V". When my left thumb touces the side of my hand, it looks like ), and when my right thumb touches the side of my hand it looks like (.